“But…isn’t that the ending from last week’s episode of Downton Abbey?”
People often approach tarot readers with a bit of suspicion, and so they try to give as little info as they can during a reading. Because the tarot reader should be able to see it in the cards without relying on additional information, shouldn’t they?
This is the result of the sad reality that there are many dishonest, or untrained readers, and clients are often faced with the daunting task of determining whether they are receiving an honest, competent reading. Many clients believe that if they tell the reader as little as possible, they can determine whether the reader is providing an honest and accurate reading based on the cards, or whether they are given a rehashed version of what the client just told them plus whatever Carrie was up to on Sex and the City the night before (and perhaps sprinkled with a bit of Dr. Phil and Oprah).
The truth is, how much information, insight, detail, accuracy you receive is often based on how much accurate, detailed, honest information you provide to the reader. That is not to say that with only your question, a tarot reader will have very little to provide to you. However, it does mean that with additional information, your reading will be that much more precise, on point, and clear. I often provide a great deal of information to my clients based solely on one question and perhaps a sentence or two. For an e-mail reading, that’s usually all I get to work with, but I may need to pull additional cards to clarify what I see, which means that the reading will take longer for me to prepare, and the resulting information may not be as detailed and precise as I would prefer (but I am an absolute perfectionist, so I enjoy giving my clients every juicy bit of what I see).
So really, this is a double-edged sword (am I using this right? ugh.) because to have the best reading, you should ideally give more information to your reader than just a name and a 3-word question, but if the reader is dishonest, they may be handing you information solely based on what you’ve just told them.
My advice is this:
1. Listen to your gut.
First, if you don’t feel you can trust your tarot reader, if somehow something about the reader doesn’t sit well with your gut instincts, then listen to your gut and seek another reader. Ask friends or family for a referral, or contact prospective readers with some of your concerns, get a feel for how they communicate, how they read, and their style of reading before you request a reading. No two readers and alike, and you will find that each reader has their own style.
2. Allow your tarot reader to work with you.
Once you’ve found a reader that you feel comfortable working with, go into the reading with an open mind, and give the tarot reader some general information, provide some context to your question, and let the tarot reader go from there. Based on the cards, they may guide you through with what they see, and allow them to work with you on your reading. By doing that, you’ll get back much, much more.
3. Know that you are the ultimately in control of your reading.
And always, if you don’t feel comfortable telling your reader about something, don’t feel as though you must! And on a related note, do not ever allow a reader to pressure you with scare tactics! (I will discuss scare tactics in more detail in a future post.) This is your reading and your communication with your reader will allow your reading to be informative without breaking your comfort zone.
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